Why "Willpower" Isn't the Problem: Breaking the Restriction Cycle
By mid-February, that initial "New Year" energy has usually faded, leaving many people feeling stuck in a frustrating tug-of-war with food. You might find yourself restricting during the day, only to feel "out of control" by the time you get home from work in the evening.
If this sounds familiar, you’ve likely been told you just need more discipline. At Naturally You Counseling, we want to clear up that misconception: Your struggle isn't a character flaw; it’s a biological response to restriction.
The Biological "Springboard"
Think of restriction like pulling back a rubber band. The tighter you pull (skipping meals, cutting out carbs, or following "detox" rules), the harder it snaps back when you finally let go.
When your brain senses it isn't getting enough energy, it switches into survival mode. It increases hunger hormones and makes you hyper-fixated on food. This isn't a lack of control, it’s your body trying to protect you.
Physical vs. Mental Restriction
Whether we are meeting in my Fairfield office or talking via telehealth in New York, I often see clients struggling with two types of restriction:
Physical Restriction: Skipping meals or avoiding specific food groups.
Mental Restriction: Eating the food but judging yourself for it. Saying "I’ll have to work this off at the gym tomorrow" keeps the brain in a state of "threat," which fuels food anxiety.
Breaking the Cycle in Fairfield County
Breaking free isn't about "trying harder" to diet. It’s about legalizing food in your mind and providing your body with consistent, reliable nourishment. When your body learns that food is always available, the rubber band finally loses its tension.
At my practice, I specialize in helping individuals in Fairfield, Westport, and Old Greenwich step off this exhausting merry-go-round. We work on identifying your specific triggers and building a foundation of nourishment that allows your brain to finally feel safe again.
If you're looking for eating disorder therapy in person in Fairfield County, my practice is here to support you. If you're seeking support for disordered eating or want to work on improving your relationship with your body, food, or exercise, you're not alone. Reach out today to schedule a free consultation or learn more about our eating disorder therapy services in Fairfield County and virtual eating disorder therapy throughout Connecticut and New York.
With Love,
Briana
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